The Benefits of Support Groups for Surrogates
Being a surrogate is an exceptionally powerful act of kindness and commitment. You’re helping someone bring a child into the world. And that’s nothing short of incredible!
Along with all the positives, surrogacy is quite an undertaking. Even if you enjoyed your previous pregnancies, it’s a bit different when you’re carrying someone else’s baby. It can even seem a little overwhelming at times. That’s why support during your surrogacy journey is so important.
There’s nothing quite like the support of someone who’s going through the same journey as you! That’s why a reputable agency will offer surrogacy support groups that allow you to connect and share with other surrogates. Most agencies will provide different participation options: in person or online, whatever suits your needs and schedule.
Why do I need to join a surrogacy support group?
On the surface, surrogacy sounds fairly straightforward. You’re pregnant for nine or ten months, you give birth, and the job’s done. Right?
It’s actually a bit more complicated than that. Many surrogates love their journey, but even the most experienced surrogates need support from time to time.
To start, the screening process for becoming a surrogate is very thorough. You will need to complete medical tests and examinations, as well as pay close attention to your personal health and lifestyle. This alone can be a little stressful.
Let’s not forget that being pregnant has its own ups and downs! On top of the wild hormones and crazy mood swings, you’ll be acutely aware that you’re carrying someone else’s child for 40 weeks. There will be times when you feel a little emotional or stressed. And that’s why you should be able to connect with a support network when you need to.
You might think that you can do just fine on your own and that “support” is only for people who need extra help or counseling. But all surrogates need understanding and fellowship, regardless of whether it’s their first journey or their 4th.
Support is just as important after your journey ends as it is throughout the pregnancy itself. As is the chance with any pregnancy, sometimes things don’t go as planned. For friends and family, it can be hard to know what to say, but reaching out to those who have been in your situation can provide a unique comfort that few others could offer.
Surrogacy support groups are there to make your journey easier and emotionally healthier. Checking in with others on the same path will help you feel connected and encouraged. You’ll be able to share your thoughts, fears, joys, and “down” days. You’ll not only learn more about the process (especially from women who have been there before), but you’ll have a dedicated support system with knowledge and experience that your family and friends can’t always offer.
Agency support group options
All reputable agencies will require that surrogates have a stable home life and the full support of a partner, close family member, or friend throughout their journey. But having fellow surro-sisters to lean on for support can be just as important.
Most agencies provide a range of very active surrogacy support groups in which surrogates from all over the U.S. can share the stages of their journey.
Support group options can include:
In-person support groups
Surrogacy support groups that meet once a month. You’ll get a chance to introduce yourself, share your own surrogacy story, talk about how you’re feeling, and meet other women who are on similar journeys. Sharing face-to-face like this helps create a sense of community, and many surrogates become lifelong friends!
Virtual support groups online
It’s not always possible to attend meetings in person, and agencies understand that. That’s why they will offer virtual support groups that are the next best thing to face-to-face groups. You can share your journey from the comfort of your own home via video conference! These support groups are held by experienced surrogate team members, who have been through the process themselves.
One-on-one support with your agency
Many agencies have staff that are available whenever you need them. This can be a dedicated surrogate support manager or your case manager. They are just one phone call away to help easy any stress you are feeling, celebrate exciting milestones, or to walk you through the next steps of your journey.